We have fears below the surface that we don’t consciously know we have. God wants us to be free of them. How can we be? Well, he has made a way for us. It is the way of his love. His perfect love for us casts out all fear.
"And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them...There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear...The one who fears is not made perfect in love." (1 John 4:16–18 NIV 2011)
We have to choose life. Choose risk. Choose love. The only safe place for our hearts is to dive deeply into the magnificent, eternal, ridiculous, overwhelming love that God has for us. His love is the only safety net that will hold. Really, do you have an option? How is that life of fearful control working for you? Better to ask, how is it working for those who have to live with your fearful control? Come and be free in the love of God.