Man’s love is of man’s life a thing apart
’Tis a woman’s whole existence. (Byron)
Eve was created because things were not right without her. Something was not good. “It is not good for the man to be alone” (Gen. 2:18). This just staggers us. Think of it. The world is young and completely unstained. Adam is yet in his innocence and full of glory. He walks with God. Nothing stands between them. They share something none of us have ever known, only longed for: an unbroken friendship, untouched by sin. Yet something is not good. Something is missing. What could it possibly be? Eve. Woman. Femininity. Wow. Talk about significance.
To be specific, what was “not good” was the fact that the man was “alone.” “It is not good for the human to be alone, I shall make him a sustainer beside him” (Gen. 2:18 Alter). How true this is. Whatever else we know about women, we know they are relational creatures to their cores. While little boys are killing one another in mock battles on the playground, little girls are negotiating relationships. If you want to know how people are doing, what’s going on in our world, don’t ask me—ask Stasi. I don’t call friends and chat with them on the phone for an hour. I can’t tell you who’s dating whom, whose feelings have been hurt—ask Stasi.
This is so second nature, so assumed among women it goes unnoticed by them. They care more about relationship than just about anything else. Radio talk-show host Dennis Prager reports that when the topic of the day on his show is a “macro issue” like politics or finance, his callers will be Ed, Jack, Bill, and Dave. But when the topic is a “micro issue” involving human relationships, issues like dating or faithfulness or children, his callers will be Jane, Joanne, Susan, and Karen.